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11/19/01 Debbie Dewart's article in this issue is a must-read,
especially for individuals who have read the book Boundaries
and for those with family members who have read it. As the book
Boundaries and its various "offspring" from Cloud and
Townsend became more popular, we began receiving numerous phone
calls about the detrimental fall-out. A number of men have called
with about the same concerns, which boil down to this: "My
wife read Boundaries and it has wrecked our marriage. She has
placed boundaries around her that
never existed before she read that book and now she has distanced
herself from me." These complaints, as well as other negative
results, have been voiced regarding this psychoheretical book.
Those who have experienced a
fall-out from someone reading Boundaries would benefit from reading
Dewart's full critique, "Boundaries Political or Personal?"
(See the Study Materials Sheet.) Unbiblical Boundaries of Self-Protection
by Debbie Dewart, M.A.
An increasingly popular "buzzword" among psychologists
(and their followers) is "boundaries." This one concept
is used to explain and correct a huge range of human behavior.
Many popular psychology books have employed this term in recent
years. The concept needs to be examined with biblical discernment.
A review of the book Boundaries is an opportunity to do so, as
the authors, Henry Cloud and John Townsend, thoroughly explaln
what is meant by "boundaries," and how psychologists
apply the term to various human relationships.
The task before us is not easy. These authors profess faith in
Christ, and they address some very real problems. Their writing
is permeated with Scripture references. Sometimes their recommendations
appear to be correct on
the surface, although the underlying reasoning is questionable.
Some of the basic problems encountered can be summarized as
follows: Terminology: The term "boundaries" is one
normally applied to political or geographical territories; this
is the sole biblical use of the word. It is
inappropriate to apply such terminology to personal relationships.
Control: The cover of Boundaries counsels you to take
control of your life, rather than to submit control of your life
to the sovereign Lord.
Responsibility: "Boundaries" are intended
to sort out responsibilities, for oneself and to others. However,
all human beings are responsible to God. Biblically, there are
often mutual responsibilities. The geographical
terminology of "boundaries" does not adequately account
for this biblical overlapping of responsibilities.
Persecution for Christ: The Christian is exhorted to be willing
to endure hardship and persecution for the sake of the Lord Jesus
Christ. Although these authors occasionally mention sacrificial
love for others, nowhere do
they acknowledge the requirement that the believer be ready to
joyfully endure suffering for God's kingdom.
Sin vs. "Psychological" Problem: Just about
every conceivable problem in human behavior or attitude seems
capable of being explained as some type of "boundary"
problem. In every case, sin is more basic when the issue is examined
biblically. The sin of the human heart is greatly obscured when
life's problems are sorted out according to this psychologically
contrived category.
Sinner vs. victim: In looking at "boundary"
problems and their development in childhood, the person is viewed
as more fundamentally a victim than a sinnei: This is a typical
error of psychological counseling theories and methods.
Motives: The'authors do make some attempts to look
biblically at the motives underlying the behaviors that they
have defined as "boundary" problems. However, their
general focus encourages the inherent self-centered tendencies
of the human heart.
Focus on Feelings: Typical of psychology books, these
authors place an unbiblical emphasis on emotions.
Forgiveness and Reconciliation: The view of forgiveness and reconciliation
presented in this book differs from what the Bible teaches.
Biblical Exegesis: The "boundary" concept
is read into the Scriptures that the authors cite in support
of their theories. Often, the passages cited have nothing to
do with "boundaries" as defined by psychology.
Creator/creature Distinction: "Boundary theories
are applied to God in a way that blurs the clear biblical distinction
between the Creator and His creatures. The results are absurd
at best.Each of these objections is covered in my critique of
Boundaries titled "Boundaries: Political or Personal?"
lend the critique with the following conclusions.
Conclusions
The concept of "boundaries," contrary to the claims
of Drs. Cloud and Townsend, is not a biblical one. A few of the
most serious objections need to be summarized in our concluding
remarks.
We have noted the authors' claim that "setting boundaries"
is designed ultimately to make possible the love of God and others.
However, there is absolutely nothing about the necessity for
the believer to be willing to
endure hardship and persecution for the cause of Christ.
The whole mentality of "boundary" setting cries
against the willingness to joyfully face such trials. Instead,
"setting boundaries" feeds into the inherent self-focus
of the human heart. Man naturally protects, loves,
nourishes, and cherishes himself and his own interests. Man has
turned from the glory of God to seek his own glory. What he needs
to learn is not how to "set boundaries" and protect
himself, but how to die to self and serve Christ without reservation.
Biblically, the word "boundaries" refers to political
or geographical borders, not to personal relationships. Such
territories do not overlap and are quite impersonal. Biblical
responsibilities, however, often do overlap, even though each
person is ultimately responsible before God for his own sin.
For example, if one person sins against another, each person
has a responsibility to initiate reconciliation. If both fulfill
their duties before God, they ought to meet halfway. Also, Christians
have responsibilities to assist in restoring one another when
one falls into sin.
This sense of mutual responsibility has no place in the psychological
teaching of "boundaries." The counsel on the cover
of Boundaries, "to take control of your life," fails
to acknowledge the necessity of absolute trust in God. We are
not called to protect ourselves and to focus on getting our own
"needs" met. Rather, we are
called to a radical trust in God, just as Christ entrusted Himself
to the One who judges justly, even in the face of the most unjust,
severe persecution in history.
The Bible does teach separation at times, but this is a concept
far removed from "boundaries." We are taught to flee
temptations (2 Timothy 2:22, 1 Corinthians 6:18), in order to
avoid falling into sin and thus dishonoring God. We are to separate
from false doctrine and those who cause division in the body
of Christ (Romans 16:17-18, Titus 3:10), but again, the focus
is on the honor of God and the care of others who may be easily
deceived. Believers are holy, "set apart," consecrated
to God. Yet even as we are called out of the world in this sense
and are no longer of the world, we must be the salt and light
of the earth, ambassadors for Christ. There are times to discipline
a fallen' brother or sister, but always for his ultimate restoration
and salvation (Matthew 18:15-20, 1 Corinthians 5). None of this
reflects the basically self-focused teaching of "boundaries."
The idea must be rejected as unbiblical, and we must return to
biblical categories for understanding and correcting sinful behavior,
and for loving God and others.
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